How Mirorly works
Three things it does, and how each one runs.
Mirorly isn't a survey tool with extras. It does three separate jobs: it gets you the words for a conversation you have to have, it lets you rate yourself honestly, and it collects what other people would never say to your face. Here is each one, end to end.
Give · feedback
Say the difficult thingPick your situation, take the wording, know what to say when they push back. Three minutes.
Myself · self-assessment
Rate how you workAnswer a calibrated set about yourself. Nobody else takes part. About ten minutes.
Get · 360 feedback
Hear it from othersSend the same questions to the people around you and read your answers against theirs.
Give · the conversation
Preparing something you have to say.
Six steps. The first five take about three minutes; the sixth happens later, on its own.
Step 01
Say who it's for.
Downward to someone you manage, upward to your manager, or sideways to a colleague. This changes the words more than the topic does — the same problem said in two directions is two different conversations, and only one of them has authority behind it.
Who are you talking to?
15 situations · upward
+ 12 more in this direction
Step 02
Find yours on the list.
45 situations, 15 per direction — the ones people actually have to have, not categories. Each carries a line saying when it's the right one to pick, so you are recognising your problem rather than classifying it.
Browse the situations →Step 03
Take the words, in the tone that fits.
Three registers: one opens with a question, one opens with the point, one is written down for the record. They differ by angle, not by force — none of them softens, because softening is one of the things the checker flags. The highlighted gaps are yours: the name, the date, the number, what it cost. Only you know those, so the product never guesses them.
I want us to land the goal this period, and at the moment I do not think we will. In period the team started number things and finished number, because the priority moved mid-week each time. Could we agree that when something changes after Tuesday, we decide together what comes off the list?
5 highlighted parts are yours to fill in.
What the rules found
Advisory, never blocking. “Leave it” is always available.
Step 04
Check it before you say it.
The same rules run over whatever you write, including your own edits. They came out of our own articles — every one has a source in a concrete “this way it fails, this way it works” pair — and they are fixed, so the same sentence always gets the same answer. That is what lets you disagree with one and move on. There is no language model anywhere in this.
Step 05
Know what to say when they push back.
This is the half no feedback model gives you. Every situation comes with the three replies that actually derail it — they deny it happened, they bury you in explanation, or they say nothing at all — and what to say to each. The opening is rarely the hard part. The next sixty seconds are.
If they…
Your register
Step 06
Keep it, and answer for it two weeks later.
A prepared conversation goes into your register. After you've had it you write one line about what you agreed. Two weeks on, it comes back and asks whether anything changed — and one of the honest answers is “I never had it”, because that happens, and a register that can't record it is no use.
Myself · self-assessment
Finding out where you stand, without asking anyone.
The only part of the product that involves nobody but you — which is exactly why it is the one most people can actually do this week.
Your own answers
What's a decision I made this quarter that I'd walk back if I could?
What's a piece of feedback I've been avoiding hearing?
When I hand work over, do I genuinely let go of it?
One of several calibrated sets.
Pick a set and answer honestly.
Calibrated sets — delegating, difficult conversations, your first ninety days. Fifteen minutes is enough to start. Answer it, and you have a dated read on yourself: the thing a gap gets measured against later, and the reason this step comes before you ask anybody anything.
Try the self-assessment →Get · 360 feedback
Hearing what people won't say to your face.
Four steps, and the only part of Mirorly where anyone else takes part — because you decided to send them a link.
Step 01
Pick a set calibrated for the moment.
The Library is a catalogue of question sets, each built for a particular occasion — a quarterly check-in, a post-project retro, upward from your team, the first six months in a manager role. You pick one. You don't write the questions, because the calibration is the value.
Browse the Library →Library
+ 18 more, calibrated by context
Round link
mirorly.com/r/q3-post-project-7af2k
Sent to · anonymous mode
Direct report (engineering)
Peer manager (design)
Cross-functional collaborator (product)
No signup required to respond.
Step 02
Answer it yourself, then send it out.
You answer first — without your own answers the replies are just data, and with them they become a comparison. Then you generate a link and share it however you like. Three to five people is the sweet spot. They answer without signing up, and whether it's anonymous or named is your call, shown to them before they start.
Step 03
Read your column against theirs.
Question by question, your answer next to the aggregated replies, broken down by relationship — managers, peers and reports in their own columns. Where you agree, you're calibrated. Where the gap is wide, that's the finding. A group needs two responses before it appears, so no single answer is ever identifiable.
Round results
When I hand work over, I genuinely let go of it.
I make it clear what matters most right now.
I stay steady when things go wrong.
Sample round — illustrative data.
My development plan · Q3
Stop redoing Maria's deliverables — by next sprint
Hold a full minute of silence in retros before reacting
Surface the design-vs-eng tension by next Wednesday
What's working · keep doing
Asking “what specifically” before reacting
Step 04
Turn the gap into something you'll do.
Mark what surprised you and write what you'll do about it — concrete and time-bound. It saves to a list called My development plan. A second list, What's working, is for the things to keep doing, because feedback isn't only about what to fix. And when an item on that plan turns out to be a conversation you owe somebody, it goes back to the top of this page.
Step 05Coming soon
Re-run it next quarter. See what changed.
Same set, same questions, same kind of respondents — three months later, with the two rounds side by side: what shifted, what didn't, where new gaps opened. Most of what a structured round is worth turns up in the second and third one, not the first.
This is the one part of the page that isn't finished. You can run a round again today and read each one on its own; putting two of them next to each other is what we're building. What's live and what isn't is on one page.
Tracking · gap over time
Delegation gapclosing across four rounds — an illustration of the view we're building, not a screen you can open yet.
Why
Mirorly?
Easy to start.
Three minutes from first visit to words you can use. No software to install, no HR meeting to schedule, no training to attend. The free half needs no account at all.
Yours, on your terms.
You pick the situation, the people, the cadence. Anonymous or named — your call. Boss, peers, direct reports — your call. There's nobody scheduling this for you and no calendar event you'll forget.
Private. Personal. Protected.
Your account is paid by you, accessed by you, and invisible to your employer. Responses come in anonymously by default. Data stays in Europe (GDPR). Nothing gets sold, shared, or fed into a model.
Nothing here writes for you.
The sentences were written by people and checked against fixed rules, so the same text always gets the same answer — which is what lets you disagree with one and move on. There is no language model anywhere in this product, and that is a choice rather than a gap.
Start with the one you need today
Which of the three is it?
Two of them need nothing from anyone else and nothing from you but a few minutes. The third is there when you're ready for it.